Attracting a quality partner is challenging without the right tools. If you don't socialize often it furthers that challenge.

The good news is there are ways to overcome this obstacle by using polarity to your advantage. Women are magnetized to men when there is proper polarity and vice versa.

Polarity also works in same sex partnerships. But the main focus here will be on a man attracting a woman since I speak from experience.

In terms of polarity many men are confused on how to be masculine. There are traits that are masculine and an entirely different set of feminine traits.

Each person embodies both to various degrees and they can be used to create attraction.

When the polarity of traits is right it creates attraction between a man and woman. This of course applies to same sex scenarios as well. Attraction is created through the polarity of opposite traits.

This is why you see for example in same sex female relationships often there's one female who's more masculine and the other is feminine. It creates the proper polarity to maintain the attraction.

The feminine is like the ocean and the masculine is like the ship. The ocean flows with emotional changes and the ship is stable on the water with decided direction.

When these energies combine it is powerful. Power couples are made of this combination.

Sometimes women who are wildly feminine trigger men into reactivity. You get sucked into their powerful emotional energy.

I remember my ex wife that I was with for 11 years had intense emotions at times. She'd express herself firmly and I'd unconsciously join her in the emotion.

There would be negative friction between us because of my reactivity to her. After a few years of being separated I purchased an in depth course on polarities so I could show up in my next relationship with leverage.

From those teachings I developed a sense of patience and acceptance for the feminine. I embrace the practice of maintaining stability in the storms of the feminine. It is my quest.

I've come to appreciate the challenges that arise from wild femininity because I know it always offers the seed of growth. A man has no necessity for change if he's not challenged.

Women trigger and test us in various ways to see if we're easily perturbed. If you're reactive to the tests you're losing yourself to feminine energy.

If you instead maintain your masculine energy there will be more stability to your relationship. The polarity and attraction will remain healthy.

Consciousness is masculine. It is self awareness. When you're self aware you're much less reactive.

It gives you the opportunity to accept life as it is and respond from a higher place. Reactivity is the work of the ego.

The ego feeds off of making enemies of people. It's the maker of pain in your life across all relationships. It thrives on superiority and being right all the time.

When you can step back and admit to being wrong you're playing a totally different ball game. You're at a new level.

Another aspect of masculinity which is empowering is the willingness to be alone. Many men when lonely try to cling to the first average match on Tinder instead of waiting for the right quality.

An average woman is not sustainable in the long haul. The relationship will expire sooner than later.

It is a feminine trait to be attached to being in a relationship. The masculine grows through being alone and embracing his suffering.

When you're left with the raw texture of your life without the distractions of sex and entertainment you have nothing left to do but to self examine. This fosters personal growth.

Another distraction that men use a lot is porn. The consumption of porn puts you in your feminine energy. It's because the feminine is built for pleasure and consumption.

Each polarity has a dark side and a divine side. So in this instance porn is dark feminine because the dark feminine loves variety when it comes to sex.

If you want to embody divine masculinity you need to discard porn. It will serve you in many ways to be free from those compulsive needs. I wrote an article on how to quit porn here: https://bmi.beehiiv.com/p/5-ways-overcome-porn-addiction

Some may argue that using porn is enjoyable and releases stress; however, it's only fleeting joy. Long term joy is more attainable when you're not in the grip of addiction.

Porn and violence seem to be rampant on the internet. Violence and anger are traits of dark masculinity. So between porn and violence there are dark triggers all over online.

It's important to be aware of what you consume so you don't taint your consciousness. Over time you become what you consume.

Let yourself not become a violent porn addict. The world needs less of those.

Porn is actually known to invoke negative emotional states in men such as anger and arrogance. So we could say violence and porn go hand in hand.

Porn is used as a means to mitigate loneliness. Ultimately it's a distraction from finding the source of your suffering.

How to be the divine masculine to attract the divine feminine:

Be willing to be alone

Embrace being alone because it's a masculine characteristic. A masculine man is ok with being alone until the right relationship presents itself.

To further remove distractions from loneliness you could also fast experimentally. This leaves you to face loneliness and learn to overcome it naturally.

Not only does fasting force you to embrace the raw texture of your life but it's also the most tried and true method for longevity. I wrote an article here if interested in learning more about the anti-aging benefits.

Facing your pain fuels you into self betterment. It allows you to see your flaws so that you may correct them.

I went through a period of voluntary loneliness to face myself and overcome flaws. I now feel confident in group gatherings as an introvert and I sense women are magnetized to me. It doesn't take much effort now and I can just be myself in my own energy.

I was invited to a few fire gatherings by my new neighbour and I could feel genuine engagement with me from the women at the party. When I left the gathering one of the women asked me to confirm my name.

I sensed interest and realize how simple it is. I attribute it in part to not being needy or trying to get with someone. It's about relaxing and feeling out the vibe however it unfolds naturally.

Although there were a few good looking women at the gathering I kept a neutral space and expressed interest in subtle ways. Women love enticement.

Anyway the point is that being amongst women and not needing them creates an attraction point. The next day after the gathering 2 of the women liked me on tinder.

One of the girls messaged me and said that she was attracted to my cool attitude. It didn’t take much to have this effect on her.

Another aspect that is benefiting me is to have acceptance to whatever may come. If I’m interested in a woman I don’t have attachment to being with her.

If it works out after I express interest that’s fine and it’s also fine if it doesn’t. I find that with this accepting attitude women are surfacing in my life in my DM’s as well as favourable matches on Tinder.

I attribute it to being detached and truly not caring which path leads to my ideal love connection. It tells the universe that I’m not in lack.

Detachment let’s you create life from a whole place rather than a needy one.

Learn to be comfortable as yourself which may take time but that time is part of the natural process. You're actually being yourself through the discomfort as well.

Embrace yourself as is. Self acceptance dissipates inner resistance into inner peace which is a highly attractive quality.

Semen Retention and Edging

This provides a similar benefit in that it prevents you from escaping your life through orgasm. Orgasm for men is the most powerful release of stress there is.

But it is only a temporary escape. When you retain your seed it allows you to see the areas of life that still need healing.

I retain for several months on end. I vow to myself to only ejaculate with a real woman. I've gone more than 6 months at a time.

I find that it motivates me to my work and creativity. It also encourages me to be more social to increase my chances to find a worthy suitor.

I've been experimenting with retention and something I've noticed is enjoyment of social interactions. Since I'm not releasing dopamine through orgasm it's become apparent that I enjoy the simplicity of social connections more.

Retention doesn't mean you can't touch yourself or get excited. I also use a tool called edging which increases your endurance in sex and also makes you magnetic to women.

It involves masturbation until you get close to orgasm. You then stop as close to orgasm as possible and let the energy surge through your body. You can repeat this 3-5 times or as desired.

When you stop short of orgasm you can feel the masculine energy filling your inner body. It's a healer and charges your magnetism.

Women are attracted to the masculine energy that emanates from you for a day or two after edging. So if you're going on a date for example you could use this method the day before to produce this magnetism.

Be patient

The art of patience detaches you from outcomes and timelines. With detachment you no longer taint your manifestations with fear and doubt.

This allows the purity of attracting a goddess partner when the time is right. It's when you let go of wondering "when" and "how" that you no longer resist that manifestation.

Patience is a masculine virtue and it takes practice to accept life's moments as they are without needing it to change. We're conditioned to resist challenges which only perpetuates them.

Let go and learn to be happy with yourself. It's the way to being a better version of yourself when you do find a suiting love partner.

Many men settle for the first offering that comes their way. This is a path to discontent because the relationship will soon expire if there's limited attraction.

Breaking up with someone is not fun and I recently went through it because the attraction was limited for me. It's not worth investing time and energy into a sub-optimal connection.

Relationships take time and energy to flourish. The love with my ex girlfriend was growing and she was ready to move in with me.

She had a lot of good qualities but I realized the attraction to her was limited which would not sustain us long term. I sadly had to let her go because I loved her and didn't want to hurt her further down the road.

We talked about plans to move in with each other and I already have 4 kids. I knew it was time to assess whether we could sustain long term. The conclusion is that it was time to move forward.

At this point I hold an ideal vision of a Goddess partner; however, I'm unattached to the result. It feels good to not be attached to the outcome--it's freedom.

I went out the other night to a karaoke bar and met an attractive woman. She welcomed me to her tea shop in town so I went a few days later.

During the visit to her shop it came up in conversation that she had a boyfriend. I was temporarily disappointed but I didn't dwell on it.

I moved past it and instead felt grateful that I stepped out of my comfort zone to go visit her in the first place. This brings us to the next actionable item...

Playing your comfort's edge

Often times in life you experience the same old, same old all too much. This is because you stay within your comfort zone.

Something that has served me is to play the edge of my comfort zone by taking little steps outside of it each day if possible. This offers the seed of new experiences.

Rather than recycling the same affairs you create fresh experiences. For example I was invited by my neighbour to a fire gathering the first day I moved in here.

As an introvert by nature I tend to keep to myself for the most part. I decided I was going to the gathering even though it's more comfortable to stay home.

I ended up meeting some cool people that had really good vibes. I was happy that I showed up because I would have otherwise missed out on those connections.

All that's needed is the will to step out of your comfort zone more often. This expands your comfort zone over time so the things that used to be uncomfortable are now comfortable.

Saying hello to women and asking how they're doing is a good practice for me as an introvert. So I do it to open myself up to opportunities that would otherwise be missed. Simple small steps compound over time.

I also practice this with everybody now to expand my social comfort in general. I recommend to practice opening up to the world a little at a time to expand your social comfort level.

Quit porn

I wrote an article here on how to quit porn for good here. This begins the process of cleaning your conscience to attract a matching Goddess of pure vibrations.

If your mind has been tainted with pornographic imagery it's hard to connect with women at a deep level. Your mind tends to hold dirty imagery which hinders your ability to connect with real humans.

When your vibes are pure, you have nothing to hide and that is felt by highly feminine women. Intuition is a trait of the feminine. So a highly feminine woman can read you like a book through vibes.

Be active but unattached

There are many ways to be active to open up opportunities to meet women. One of the most convenient ways is through dating apps.

You could spend 30 minutes daily or more to swipe on dating apps. I bought a dating app course online because I felt frustrated in the beginning with the lack of results from the dating apps I was using.

I learned there's an algorithm that limits how many people see your profiles on the apps. The course I took explained that it takes time to match and coordinate plans to actually meet up with women.

It explained that it's a numbers game and you have to play the odds because plans fail at times. If you enjoy using dating apps it's worth spending the time to be active on it.

It increases chances of meeting someone if you go out to public events. This could be the most effective way since it's organic and allows you to show your natural self.

Even if you feel uncomfortable at first that is part of your uniqueness. Showing your true colours even if you're still developing yourself is a virtue in itself.

Accept yourself and detach from being successful with women. Just let connection happen naturally when it does. There's no rush.

That is a place of true power. It is feminine nature to be invested in relationships so she is more inclined to desire connection with you when you're unattached (masculine). This way there's natural polarity.

Closeness

A few months back I became very interested in studying dating and magnetism so I purchased some courses. As an introvert I felt I had a road block for connecting with women after 11 years of marriage.

One of the study points that I've been practising is being in close proximity to the subject of attraction. A few months after my separation I got a girlfriend and I used the tool of closeness.

For fun I challenged her to a staring contest at close proximity on the beach. Immediately after she proceeded to lower my shorts so we could have sex. I'm not saying this works every time but it was effortless in this case.

I also used this tool when I first started connecting with another girlfriend. I could feel the sexual tension through it.

I knew that I was transmitting intimate energy to her. There's something powerful about subtleties like this. It's felt because when you're within arms reach of someone you're sharing auras.

The human aura extends the length of our arms stretched out to give an idea of the energetic field. There's no denying that everything is energy in this universe.

The most powerful messages are communicated with energy and not with words.

Summary

With these tactics in mind you can practice feeling comfortable being alone while awaiting your dream partner. There are millions of women in the world so you don't need to settle even if you're introverted and a single parent like me.

There are quality women out there that are also looking to manifest you into their lives. I'm currently single and happy to embrace life alone until a high quality life partner joins me on this journey.

I'll not settle for less than my ideal standards anymore and hope this motivates you to do the same. Embrace yourself and be patient because great things are coming!

Great things come to those who wait.

Are you ready to embrace these tools to effortlessly attract the quality of woman you want and keep her? I provide affordable counselling to help you solidify these tools for maximum attraction.

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Peace,

Kush Wood