If you're single and feel lonely there is only one thing causing that. Your thoughts. Yes, your thoughts alone are the source.

Thoughts are creations of your ego which is never satisfied. It keeps you wanting and needing more which creates a continually state of suffering.

There are two parts to humans: one is your ego identity and the other is your essence identity. Your ego fills your head with thoughts all day long that torment you into inner tension, self doubt and worry.

It tells you you're running out of time, you need a girlfriend, you need more money etc. There's always something missing in your life... from your ego's perspective.

It's steadily trying to get to a more fulfilling moment because this moment is never enough. I suffered from this for 30+ years always rushing around and trying to get to a better life scenario.

Little did I know I was missing the most powerful aspect of me. My essence identity.

The essence identity is your true self (or deeper self). Your true self is whole and complete without pain, needs or desires.

Some people might describe it as your soul. It's your deeper self that is always beneath the surface of thoughts and emotions.

It's the silent observer. The more you quiet your mind the more prevalent your essence identity becomes.

The more you quiet your mind the less reactive you become to life. You instead operate from a place of inner peace and wholeness.

As I said in the past I was often rushing around. Trying to create an income to support my family, to achieve success in business etc. I was never able to feel relaxed at any point in my life until recently.

With continual self observation and full acceptance of the current moment of life I now wield the power of now. The power of not needing life to be any different.

So without self imposed resistance to the present moment of life (which is the only existing moment ever) I find peace. For once after many long years of suffering my inner tension is fading.

I'm now in a place of self acceptance and higher self love. The remedy centers around reduced thought.

Thought is the fuel for suffering. We need thought at times but not anywhere near as much thinking as people do daily.

The majority of thought is negative loops of self doubt, worry about the future etc. Loneliness is a by-product of that.

It's generated by you doubting your chances of finding love or by worrying that you're running out of time. That's an illusion.

There's 8 billion people in the world and many of them are also seeking love. This means your chances of finding a lover in divine time are much higher than your ego is telling you.

Life is magnetism. Everything is frequency specific. So when you're on the frequency of doubt and loneliness you perpetuate that into your reality.

When you instead learn to accept yourself and embrace being alone you rise above the lonely vibe. This sends out a more empowering signal to the universe which no longer perpetuates loneliness.

My goal right now as a single is to accept myself completely and indefinitely until a quality love enters my life. I'm willing to wait while building my business, body and mind.

I'm becoming an irresistible offer to a quality woman. I don't need to chase anybody. My standards are high and they should be as should yours.

There are many semi attractive women out there but they're just not worth the time. The time you invest in them is time you could be putting into yourself to match with a high quality woman. A goddess.

In terms of loneliness I still find it boring being home alone most of the time. I often wish I had a beautiful woman to share this life with but this in itself motivates me into greatness.

I use that energy to talk with women through DM's and whatever way arises in my reality. I feel that the time is approaching where I'll be in a long lasting love relationship.

A part of that scares me because that means I need to close the door on the women options in my life. As I write this though I realize that won't matter because my partner will be of high quality.

I think it's the idea that I'll have to close friendships with women that I currently find attractive. Women that I feel share feelings for me as I do for them.

That's fine though because I prefer to operate in integrity and offer my woman purity. I give myself in commitment by eliminating all options and closing those doors. It's what I expect also of my partner.

Friendships of the opposite sex are fine though if they can be platonic without a hint of temptation. A man with integrity is a man of true confidence. One that has nothing to hide carries no insecurities.

I've been spending most of my time building a business these days so I don't spend much time in public. This obviously presents a challenge for me to meet a high vibe lover.

Regardless of that I feel that it will fall together with little effort. When I'm amongst mixed company as it is I feel that feminine energy is drawn to me.

This tells me that when I find a woman that meets my standards and is open she will flow into my life easily. My energy is in the right place especially after overcoming porn addiction 4 years ago.

Now that I bring neutral vibes to my interactions my energy is inviting. Energy is everything in this universe.

This affirms that staying in touch with your essence (energy) identity allows you to overcome the illusion of loneliness. It allows you to observe it as the workings of the ego but no longer identify with it. So how do you discover your essence identity?

The Essence Identity Tuner

1) Self observation

Masculinity is consciousness and consciousness is awareness. To self observe is to be conscious of yourself. It's to be conscious of your thoughts and the quality of your mind.

Thoughts arise throughout the day so the first step is to simply observe the thoughts from a deeper place. Observe with no judgement. Stop identifying with your thoughts and emotions because they are not you.

They are only constructs of your ego (your mind). Consciousness is the observation of the mind.

The ideal scenario is to operate from an empty mind. That's the purpose of meditation is to renounce thinking and discover your essence.

It's to clear your mind because supreme answers to life's challenges arise in the space of clarity. It's the constant banter of thought that disrupts your ability to find the best solutions in life.

Start simply by observing the quality of your thoughts throughout the day all day. This takes practice and is tedious at first but every bit of effort is worth it.

I came from a place of tension in my body all day long every day. As I observed my thoughts I found that I was rehearsing arguments with my ex and difficulties with my kids. None of the scenarios had even happened yet and probably didn't.

I've now reached a place of easement from myself. Little did I know at the time I was inflicting my own suffering from my own thoughts. These thoughts took form in my body as tightness and tension.

The journey was arduous but I'm now equipped with this tool to help me overcome further suffering.

2) Self Correction

With the observation of yourself you will learn much about the quality of your mind. It is a continual practice to self observe and when you become accustomed to it you will be able to correct yourself.

When you find yourself thinking negatively, having doubts or worrying you're able to realize the source. Pain is caused only by following your stream of thought and identifying with them. Observe and let go of your thoughts which slows them down.

Accept them as they arise but remain detached as the observer.

That is your path to freedom and inner peace.

You no longer have to identify with your life challenges which is the big trap of humanity. Your identity is instead your essence which observes your life challenges with no attachment.

Things come and go in this life but it neither adds nor subtracts anything from who you truly are. You are an infinite life force.

When you realize you are whole and complete as your soul you feel no pain. Pain is an illusion.

If you lose touch with your essence identity throughout the day which will likely happen there's a way to get it back. Just simply observe your thoughts, let them go and return to the rhythm of your breath only. The breath is formless like your essence so it attunes you to your deepest self.

3) Live in the Now

Thoughts are forms that take shape within your mind. They're energy fields that occupy your mind space.

This clouds your ability to live life from your deepest most powerful self (your essence). Most humans are projecting themselves into the future by trying to get to a more fulfilling time of their life.

They're not happy now but always think they'll be happy after some kind of achievement. It's a fallacy.

Many humans are also ruminating and regretting the past. In both scenarios neither are enjoying the present moment of life.

The present moment is all there is and ever will be. Be here with it.

This is when the quality of your life goes up exponentially. This is where you flow with life instead of resisting it.

Practice life without any thinking. The best way to do this is to surrender to your life circumstances as they are all day.

Do not worry about the future or past. Stay here in this very moment with all of your attention.

As you practice this you are paving the road to peace for yourself. It's also the road to greater decisions because of the precision of your focus. Precision of focus comes from a clear and present mind.

Presence (living in the now) saves you from the overbearing 60,000 thoughts that humans typically have in a day.

Let's rise above the typical human existence not for the sake of superiority but to lead the way (by example) to a better way of being. When you live in the Now your quality of life increases.

For me I came from a state of constant tension within my body. This was due to constantly trying to achieve a better life... never satisfied in the moment.

Now I've found a more peaceful existence through letting go of past and future. It's the recycling negative thoughts that cause pain so without them there's freedom.

4) Meditation

Meditation is useful to familiarize yourself to surrender to the moment by returning to the breath. It's a way of emptying your active mind.

It's especially useful early in the day for me to set my state of mind for calmness. An easy way to start is to sit or lay down and close your eyes. Then practice relaxing every part of your body.

Become aware of your breath whether it's shallow or deeper. Accept it fully for whatever it is in this moment. Be gentle with yourself.

Surrender to whatever sensations you feel within the body. Set the intention to relax each body part. Start with your neck then shoulders and move down the body intending relaxation.

You're relaxing into the inner stillness that is you. Observe your thoughts if any and let them go, bringing you back to the rhythm of your breath.

Be patient and take as much time as needed to get to that relaxed state. Once you're here you're attuned to your essence identity.

It's normal for it to take extra time in the beginning. Remember you're not trying to achieve anything such as inner peace etc. You don't achieve it, you surrender to it.

You renounce everything and surrender to the emptiness. Surrender to yourself--your true self.

5) Understand the purpose of life

The purpose of the universe is to become more conscious of itself. Thus the main purpose of your life is to become more conscious (aka more self aware).

To live in the state of full aliveness comes in the surrender to every moment of life. This takes practice but as you do so you are awakening the universe to itself.

There's a grand purpose to you realizing your essence identity. Not only does it improve the quality of your life drastically, it's also conducive to the purpose of the universe.

Remember the greater purpose of your life for added motivation.

6) Realize your wholeness

In your ego identity you are nothing but a wretched human being. You have flaws, pain, wants and always need more from your ego's perspective.

In your essence identity you are whole and complete. You need nothing because you are full and alive as an extension of the universe.

Your ego keeps creeping in though and trying to tell you you're in lack which sparks negative emotions. Ignore it and start observing yourself from the deeper place.

This comes back to self observation again. Self observation is tedious at first but as you become accustomed to it you no longer identify with the voice inside your head (your ego). This sets you free from what has always plagued you.

To perceive the world from a clear, empty mind is to operate from a place of wholeness. It's to grasp life from the state of acceptance and surrender.

Resistance to life dissipates as you go with the flow rather than efforting every action in sheer willpower. When you stay connected to your essence self you bring the power of infinite possibilities into your life.

It's the spaciousness of creation. When you're in tune with your essence ID you're in tune with the emptiness (aka the void) which brings the power of infinite possibilities.

Rather than creating life through a narrow lens via negative thought loops you create from the deeper space (your essence).

Summary

These tools are the path to an entire life makeover. Stepping out of your ego to witness it for what it is gives you tremendous power. It allows you to break the cycle of negative thinking and transcend it.

To rise above your ego is to bring the most powerful energy available to you into your everyday life. The results are night and day.

Through self observation and correction you wield the power to respond to life rather than react. Reactivity amplifies problems where as responding dissipates them.

May these tools project you into an entirely new reality of greater peace. Your world always changes first from the inside out.

The more you get in touch with your deeper self the higher vibe you become. This has been a critical component to my personal transformation into greatness.

One of the most pivotal changes I made earlier on to become a high vibe human was to discard a porn habit. The results of my interactions with women are like night and day.

My confidence rose considerably after I changed my inner vibe by cutting porn out alongside these teachings.

If you have a porn habit like many men I wrote an article for how to overcome it here. If you'd prefer to skip the reading and handle that issue immediately I invite you to DM me (social media links below) the word "purity".

I can help you conquer that with no relapse in 45 days to purify yourself into greater meaning and love connection.

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Kush Wood