If you want to attract women without having to approach them it's achievable with simple steps. The steps involve addressing the cause which sets you free from this dilemma forever.

Personally, I'm an introvert by nature. I tend not to do a lot of socialising. This presented a challenge for me to get with girls because I didn't get enough exposure.

So what did I do about it? I embarked on a journey of developing myself in ways that would make me an irresistable offer to chicas.

First things first I needed to address the flaws I had. It was time to transmute the lessons gained from my separation from an 11 year marriage. So I went into monk mode and dialed into myself in the best ways I knew how.

I read books consistently on being single, took courses on divine masculinity and magnetism. Of course reading in itself is useless. That said, I immediately implemented all of the practices to find the degree of truth in them.

4 years have passed since my separation and I have not slowed up on any of the practices. My mind remains open to knowledge like a sponge and the practices follow it.

So what did I find? Well I had a hard time talking to girls in the past because I'd always be stuck in my head with dirty thoughts. I'd be undressing girls all the time and imagining having my way with them.

It made it impossible to connect with girls at a human level. Highly feminine women are highly intuitive. That is a divine feminine quality.

You can't escape their radar with that mindset. That said, it hindered the depth of connection I sought. The root problem was linked to the fact that I consumed porn on the regular.

It was one of my fave ways to pass time when bored. Truth is it's an escape from both boredom and negative emotions.

It keeps you running from yourself so you never improve. Only when you face your emotions and process them are you growing into a stronger being.

It's a divine masculine quality to face yourself and be in the moment with whatever comes up. Easier said than done at times but personal growth is uncomfortable. Alongside the discomfort of growth comes lasting change and long term gain.

Do you want to grow or do you want to remain the same wretched human controlled by compulsive needs? Compulsive needs and porn are synonymous. Alongside that you carry guilt and shame with you everywhere.

It's a cage. I was in it for 20 years but I broke free and will not look back. It's been 4 years out of that cage.

I'm no longer controlled by lustful thoughts. I still have healthy attraction to beautiful women but I've lost the bad vibes. Clean and clear I walk with greater confidence in myself.

The confidence is derived from no longer having the guilty conscience. Integrity courses through my veins instead.

Another aspect of human nature that gets in the way of connecting with girls is living in your head too much. Incessant thinking reduces the quality of your mind turning you to worry, doubt and insecurities.

It was very difficult for me to remain present in social settings because I'd always be recycling thoughts in my head. Doubt and worry of judgement ruled me.

Worries of someone saying something rude to me and me appearing uncool. I wanted to avoid embarrassment. So my solution was to avoid people for the longest time.

That old skin has been shed although I still enjoy my solitude most of the time. After 4 straight years of nonstop application of knowledge I'm at a place of utter gratitude.

Although I hardly go out, when I do women are drawn into me. I barely need to do anything at all. It's just the purity of my new energy that I bring.

It's not difficult anymore for me to catch eyes and attention. I wrote an article here which tells the story of one of my rare outings which resulted in several girls DM'ing me the next day.

I felt like I was a main attraction at that Beltane dance when my date informed me that all the girls from there were asking for my contact info the next day. I enjoyed my time there and only had a few short conversations with some girls.

I felt like I barely did anything. I was in total seclusion from the world for several months without socialising so it's not like I was equipped with stellar social practice. Or all the right one liners to say.

That's all BS and superficial anyway. Those tactics do not foster long term benefit.

This transformation I've undergone is permanent and cannot be removed from me. It is a lifestyle which will continue to magnetize quality lovers to me or to keep the one I desire indefinitely.

I currently have a high vibe woman entering my life. She's a fellow Scorpio and I feel so aligned with her values.

It's a gift that I've only begun to unwrap. I also still have multiple girls DM'ing me so the proof is in the pudding.

As a side note since I'm connecting with a new woman I'm cautious as to how I'm giving my energy to the rest of the women emerging in DM's and elsewhere.

Here are all the tools I used to get to this place so that you can reach this higher ground as well.

The Love Magnet Formula

1) Accept being alone

For however long it takes to find a quality lover accept being alone. This is an empowering practice.

If you keep clinging to every average quality girl that gives you attention you block yourself from the high quality ones. When you're already with someone you leave no space for a high quality lover to come in.

Being able to embrace being alone is a masculine quality that is attractive to the feminine. When a man is dedicated to his life's work and mission he is embodying the divine masculine.

This doesn't mean you shut out from the world. It means you develop your masculine side by prioritizing your life's work.

2) Get exposure

If there are ways to showcase your life's work and mission do so. Putting your gifts out into world are ways of finding love that genuinely appreciates you for who you are.

For me as a musician I started posting musical reels online as a way of getting exposure. It wasn't long before I was getting noticed by women who truly appreciate me.

You can do this with art, wood working or absolutely any passion of yours whether it's making you money or not. Truth is if you start making your work and passions public it offers the opportunity to generate income as well.

Exposure also means attending social events alone or with a wing man. Cruising dating apps is another way. Experiment with getting yourself out there little by little.

Every bit of effort is worth it.

3) Get out of your head

If you feel uncomfortable or insecure know that the root problem is your thinking mind. You are living inside your head which causes you tension, doubt and worry.

The only way to overcome that is to rise into your highest self. You can do so anytime by taking a moment to slow your thoughts.

Slow your thoughts by simply observing them and letting them pass. Just let go of them.

You operate at your absolute best without your thinking mind in the way. Get comfortable in the unknown. This is a masculine quality.

The feminine likes to play it safe all the time and know what's coming next. Practice developing your masculinity through not knowing.

It's a tremendous power to relinquish control. Fear is inextricably connected to control. When we fear things we tend to try to control them.

Let go and trust yourself. You are much more than your thinking mind.

Jesus said that what you want to say will come to you in the moment. I don’t remember the exact quote but it points to the idea that without planning the precise message arrives to you when you relinquish control.

And what did the Buddha do when he wanted to end suffering in the world? He went into the forest and renounced everything.

There he found enlightenment after relinquishing his thinking mind. The same power is available to you at all times.

Slow your thoughts and return to your breathing. Follow your breath in and out. A sense of peace arises in this practice.

I recommend taking time daily for it.

4) Get off the porn

This is a critical part of the process. If you turn to porn to escape loneliness you are releasing the most magnetic energy available to you.

Porn in itself breeds guilt and shame within you. So when you're out in public your lusty mind hinders your social ability.

It's especially a hindrance in the presence of beautiful women. It blocks you from relating to them at a human level. Your head is too clouded from the hardcore material you consume.

Highly feminine women can feel that. Women want to be respected and honoured.

If you want a quality woman in your life you need to drop the porn habit. Even if you do happen to get a quality girlfriend you will lose her before you're ready.

On the contrary when you finally conquer this habit your vibe changes. You become magnetic rather than repulsive to the wildly feminine. At that point you don't need one liners or any special social skills.

Getting over porn was a game changer for me in multiple areas of my life. I now walk with integrity and able to face girls with new found confidence.

I feel really grateful for the place I'm now in. The results show. If you want more detail on overcoming porn specifically I recommend checking out my previous newsletter here.

Otherwise these are the foundational steps to empower you into divine masculinity. Once you embody them there's no stopping you as a magnetic force for love.

There are many nuances to this process and if you'd like to solidify this change in you right away I offer 1-on-1 counselling. Schedule a free discovery call at the link below to get started.

I help you use loneliness to fuel you into a stronger and more divine version of yourself. I've done it and am reaching back to help my fellow brothers (you) do the same.

Heart to heart brother,

-Kush Wood