Breakups and loneliness are a common fear for people. People are afraid to face life alone because not having a partner anymore seems daunting. That's only an illusion though.

There's tremendous power in being alone that you escape by jumping from relationship to relationship. As fast as you can you escape yourself. You evade the deepest part of your life to connect with average partner after average partner.

This evasion of depth is preventing you from the opportunity to attract and keep a high quality partner. A Goddess amongst women.

I get it though, it's difficult to sit with yourself alone without sex. Loneliness seems too difficult to face for any length of time. Loneliness however is just a construct of your ego.

It keeps you needing and wanting love outside of you. True depth of love comes from within and most people don't allow themselves time to discover it. When you do it changes the course of your love life.

There's much more to you than you may allow yourself to see. There is a path to liberate you from needing and wanting love from the external world.

As you take that path it fosters secure attachment style. This means you are content with or without your partner. Their presence doesn't dictate your happiness but instead you define it from within.

In 2020 I broke up with a Goddess partner of 11 years. It was tough but I immediately channelled all of my energy to being my greatest version for my next partner. I read books, strength trained and adopted every health regimen I deemed worthy.

It's clear to me that I want depth in love thus I seek a connection that will last. That said, I vowed to invest in myself and take it slow finding a new relationship.

I spent several months getting to know me because deep inside I felt it was the most crucial path to true quality and lasting love.

I got reclusive for about a year and spent almost all of my free time alone. I went into monk mode. No porn, no sex and no food (I fast for 23 hours daily). So just facing myself in the raw texture of my life.

I felt lonely since I lived remotely with little interaction with other humans. Not only was I remote but I typically avoided social events and felt more comfortable away from others. I spent my time practising healing meditations and sitting with tension because I wanted my life to be better.

As an introvert I tend to prefer to keep to myself naturally but I realized this wasn't going to get me a Goddess partner. I knew that socialising was a crucial aspect of meeting women.

In fact it had been several months since I'd attended any kind of social event. And the last time I attended a social event there were multiple attractive women asking about me the next day.

The story is that I was invited by a woman to a Beltane dance. I showed up with my monk energy. Still not comfortable in my skin entirely but I faced the music as practice.

I knew that I at least brought neutral energy with my presence after overcoming porn addiction. To be in public without compulsive needs in the presence of women was a refreshing new angle for me. I'm confident that it transformed how I was perceived.

The next morning the date that I attended with informed me that multiple girls at the function were asking about me and wanted my contact info. I felt inspired given that I was now on a more comfortable level presenting myself publicly in the presence of beautiful women.

I was no longer compulsive but instead neutral which evidently made me magnetic. Another component to that night was the girl who performed pyrotechnic dance.

She was masterful in her dance craft. It was evident that she was revered by the men who partook in the music and dance alongside her.

At the time that didn't phase me because I perceived through neutral lenses. After the performance ended I complimented the woman on her stellar performance.

I then turned to the guy that performed alongside her to give compliments for his performance. I notice he was looking at me jealously and had a hard time accepting the compliment.

The pyro woman said something awkwardly and walked off. It appeared that the well received compliment taken by her triggered jealousy in the man performer. Perhaps they were ex lovers.

I say ex lovers because there's no way the next part of this story would have taken place without an intervention from him. After that incident I brushed it off and went about my night.

My mindset was of commitment so I wanted to stay true to my date. She was very flowy and I felt butterflies when she danced close to me.

I could feel her feminine essence as her hair brushed against me while I stood to watch the pyro show earlier in the night. I felt grateful and committed myself to not be distracted by other women at the gathering.

After the little incident with the pyro people it wasn't long before the pyro girl positioned herself in plain view while I chilled with my date and her friend. Both girls that I was with had energy for me.

In fact my date's friend later became my girlfriend and she expressed that she crushed on me the day she met me. So the womanly energy was there for me from a few angles.

The pyro girl presented herself in front of me while I chilled. I paid her little attention but I noticed her masterful movement.

Her moves were the most ecstatic I've seen. "She was quite talented" I remember thinking to myself. Shortly after my guy friend came to sit with me and explained how he was becoming aroused by her.

It didn't phase me because I had far removed myself from compulsive sexual urges. I gained a level of self control that is uncommon.

Anyway my friend informed that it was very clear that she was dancing for me. I didn't care though because my mind was invested in the commitment of my date.

At the end of the Beltane dance evening I remember the pyro girl trying to make eye contact with me but I avoided her and kept to my affairs. I was helping my date pack up all the decorations (which she had been in charge of for the night).

A part of the reason I avoided her is because of being introverted and the other part was not wanting to be sidetracked. I kept integrity with my date.

After the night my date informed that multiple girls were interested in me. The reason she shared that is because she was going through a separation and wasn't interested in a relationship with me herself.

So even though I invested myself in the possibility of her she was on a different page. Either way I ended up with multiple women in my DMs after that night.

One of the women was particularly bold and sending me naked modelling photos of herself. She was in a model audition for Maxim magazine at the time.

I found her attractive but my drives were no longer centered around sex and it seemed this was her nature. I let her know that I was purifying my sexual energy and that I wasn't interested.

I realize though that women often use sex as a means to love. That said maybe I'll call her back in the near future haha just kidding.

On a real note the story of that night was proof of significant results for me. I would have not have dreamed it possible before my powerful transformation.

Yesterday I showed up to the beach and ran into a friend who was there celebrating a friend's birthday. Long story short I now feel tremendous love around people vs overpowering insecurity.

The more I'm around people the more magnetic I feel they are toward me. I feel the vibe from both women and men.

Where I once had insecurity I now have confidence because my vibe has been cleansed. I am a magnetic without words. It's all vibes.

So how do you overcome loneliness to become magnetic?

The Lonely to Thronely Framework

Embrace being alone

Although there are fears around loneliness being alone fosters growth so that you have more to offer a quality love. The capacity for being alone is a masculine trait worth developing.

It gives you practice at being happy alone which is a magnetic quality.

If you are extroverted by nature you may find it difficult to be alone as it is; however, the capacity of being alone grows through practice. Even introverts may need time to find comfort in aloneness.

When you practice you develop that weak area that you otherwise avoid. The most important quest in this life is to get to know yourself.

If you're always filling your time with distractions you're evading the greatest purpose of life.

As you find joy in being in your own energy, others will feel that. Especially women who are highly feminine because intuition is a feminine trait. Highly feminine women have that sense.

Self observe and Self correct

As you get in tune with yourself more by being alone it's important to observe your mind. Throughout the day observe your thoughts as they arise and let them pass.

Do not follow them and get lost in them because that is your ego taking over. Your ego is the main culprit in self imposed suffering. To connect with your higher self is to be the observer only of your thoughts.

A superior mind is one without thought. Difficult to achieve though considering humans have around 60,000 thoughts daily by default.

But you don't want to live by default. There's tremendous power in rising above your ego instead.

The circumstances of your life start to change for the better when you're above your ego. You now have leverage on every situation of your life.

It starts with your thoughts. Because thoughts become things and the pattern of human thought is often negative thoughts of doubt and worry.

Start by incessant self observation to correct that. As you go about your day examine your thoughts without judgement.

Allow thoughts to arise and allow them to pass. You are not your thoughts or emotions. You're the almighty observer.

At first start by simply observing your thoughts then after a while practice by intending favourable outcomes. Rather than worrying about an imaginary scenario you instead imagine a favourable break in its place.

This is the start of self empowerment. It's tedious at first but every bit of effort is worth it.

Quit Porn

In order to find neutral ground with women you need quit the habit of porn. Looking at it keeps you in a lustful mindset which again is picked up on by highly feminine women.

Your guilt emanates from you like the stench of a rotting corpse. I wrote an article on how I overcame 20 years of porn addiction here. I recommend checking it out if you want to quit this habit to purify your sexual energy.

This makes your vibe inviting rather than repulsive.

Semen Retention

Semen retention is used for motivation and healing. The motivational component comes from retaining your seed which is the most powerful driving energy for men.

Women inspire men to give their greatest gifts and when you hold your seed rather than wasting it you wield the power longer. It's a catalyst for creativity that is otherwise diminished.

There's nothing wrong with masturbation, sex and orgasm; however, I recommend experimenting with retention to find your truth in it.

You could start by going 7 days, then 2 weeks, then a month and several months etc. I recommend having a purpose or mission in life which is a foundational masculine quality.

If you don't have one choose something you're good at or something you'd love to be good at. Start doing it and use the retention method to channel that energy into it. Your work is now fuelled by unprecedented power.

This is not a new concept, it's called sexual transmutation. It's talked about in chapter 6 of Think and Grow Rich. Sex transmutation fuels people into their greatest worldly success.

This type of power is untouchable by other methods.

The healing component of semen retention pertains to no longer escaping your life through orgasm. Orgasm is the most powerful release of all stress particularly for men.

So what happens when you orgasm? You evade the cause of stress rather than dealing with it. It takes a masculine man to face himself and overcome flaws.

Retention forces you to observe the raw texture of your life without running away. It's not that difficult when you think of the benefit it's bringing you in becoming a stronger man.

Discipline grows through this practice and it's another "boy to man" pathway.

With these basic tools you are on the path to finding joy in yourself and in turn being magnetic to love and friendship. As an introvert it has changed the course of my life permanently.

From feeling insecure in groups to being completely magnetic and joyous instead. I'm now able to relax and embrace my independence in full trust that a beautiful lover is coming in for me in her time.

In the meantime I have acceptance of being alone and enjoy this time for what it is. Are you ready to learn the skill of being happy alone?

I offer a free 15 minute strategy call to see how I can help you achieve that. Please book at the calendly link below to secure a spot.

Peace out for now,

Kush Wood