If you've recently gone through a break up and feel afraid to face life alone know that there's tremendous power in being single. This article shows you how to find happiness as a single and at the same time charge your inner love magnet.

If you feel lonely or incomplete without a lover you're about to learn the tools to dissipate that illusion... to realize your wholeness independent of anything outside of you.

Loneliness is difficult to face but it's only a construct of your mind. It's technically your mind that's difficult to face.

People have trouble sitting alone with themselves. It is however the main quest of life... To know thyself. Yet most people are afraid so they avoid it.

Eckhart Tolle says that the purpose of the universe is to become more conscious of itself. Thus that is the purpose of human life.

To become more conscious is an uncomfortable journey; but what's even more uncomfortable is going through life without awakening to greater consciousness.

You're constantly at the whim of whatever is happening in the outside world. As you lose love, possessions and health you suffer immensely.

Even when you achieve great things the happiness is only fleeting. You get a new house and soon after your joy of the house dissipates.

You return to the repetitive story of suffering.

The reason for that is not realizing your wholeness from within. You seek happiness outside of you because you are unaware of your entirety.

In terms of love it is the same. You find a lover and after 3 months or a year or more that person no longer makes you happy. It is actually impossible for them to make you happy. You are the only maker of happiness for yourself.

If you expect another human to make you happy you're imposing a heavy burden on them. Every love partner is different and their personality and physical beauty will never be enough to sustain love.

There's a more crucial component to lasting love that's usually missing in relationships. Without it relationships eventually fall to pieces.

The issue is that most humans are only in touch with their ego identity which is never satisfied. It's always needing more. In that state of mind nothing ever lasts as long as it could.

You must cultivate your energy identity (your true self) for any relationship to last. It's futile otherwise. The relationship will go stale or expire without the fullness of you.

People destroy their chances at long relationships through living in their ego. The ego is fed through incessant thinking which has become normal for humans.

Thus it has become normal for relationships to expire before their time. Ego driven behaviour is the root of dissatisfaction which leads to boredom which leads to breakups.

Even when you have your dream partner your ego still tries to assert itself with fearful thoughts of losing that partner. You're never quite at ease. The thinking mind will never let you be when left unchecked.

It is your ego that is never happy enough in the present moment. It is always seeking a more fulfilling moment in life.

This is what happened with my ex and I. After 11 years of marriage I asked to open the relationship due to boredom.

We studied polyamory for a little while and practised it but our relationship expired regardless. It even said in the book that poly is not a way to fix boredom in a relationship. They were right.

The only lasting solution to relationship sustainability is in the depth of your presence. This is when you're living life from your energy identity as a conscious being. It allows you to observe your ego and make a correction before intimacy is destroyed.

The ego wants to make enemies of everybody. It's the culprit of division through superiority.

How I became magnetic as an introvert

I spent a lot of time learning how to be successful in finding love after my separation. I searched and practised manifesting love through daily meditation.

I invested in courses for online dating strategies. I also invested in courses on divine masculinity on how to become magnetic for a Goddess partner. I further studied the law of attraction and implemented a multitude of techniques. Those techniques didn't work for me.

Finally I started learning to let go of the external circumstances of the world. In that I discovered a level of acceptance for whatever may come.

I practice detachment and realize a greater sense of easement through that. One of the greatest human weakenesses is attachment. When you lose something you tend to suffer... A lover, material possessions etc.

Clinging to relationships is a danger to yourself. Your happiness then depends on the status of your relationships. Sometimes a relationship needs to fall away to later strengthen that bond.

It's often through loss that you realize what you had. When you continue life without that person you have the space to determine whether your life improves or not.

It's the masculine way to be able to let go of your woman and realize she's replaceable. David Deida talks about this in his book "The Way of the Superior Man".

It’s feminine energy that is more needy. Currently I’m honoring and developing the masculine in me. This has given rise to my capacity to embrace life alone. It's a tremendous power.

For 3 straight years I researched and implemented all the ways I could become high value for a divine lover. I’m now feeling my most magnetic version and I accept life alone until a high quality partner aligns with me.

There's no rush. Patience is the strongest virtue period (also a masculine trait).

When I go to parties there’s lots of energy on me from women. I’m usually asked for my contact info by the end of the night.

The past few nights out have resulted in multiple girls in my DMs just by being myself. As I explained in my previous article, I don’t go out much but when I do it seems I'm revered by women.

Things have changed since I overcame a 20 year porn addiction to purify my sexual energy. I've realized noticeable change in how I feel in public settings.

I went into hermit mode for a few years to figure myself out and overcome flaws. Evidently it worked.

The first night out after hermit days resulted in a model sharing her nude photos with me in my DMs but I was not interested at the time. I was still immersed in the concept of purifying my sexual energy.

Once you’re in tune with yourself you don’t need lustful connections to fulfil you. When you realize your wholeness there is nothing needed to make you complete.

No human connection or lustful desire is needed. This state of completeness is the state which attracts the quality of love you desire.

So how do you manifest such a state of being in every day life? The goal is to keep building yourself physically, mentally and spiritually. This makes you a high ticket offer for your ideal lover when timing aligns.

The Self Completion Model

Physical training

When your body is in good physical form you're much more confident. This happens naturally as your posture improves with more muscle mass.

You're also more capable to handle life's challenges including the mental challenges. A strong physique fosters resilience.

Strength training is a great way to expend built up energy. It's an outlet for that trapped energy. It also invokes mood enhancement through releasing of endorphins and dopamine.

For a guide on becoming your strongest self check out my previous article here for the most effective training method in existence.

Consume knowledge and apply it

Reading and consuming knowledge is not enough. You must apply the knowledge while it's fresh to find the truth in it.

When you implement knowledge it gives you the experience to determine if it works for you or not. Experience is the greatest teacher.

You are the most important investment you'll ever make so it's worth developing yourself to greater heights. All knowledge when applied is an asset.

Acceptance of being single

Have acceptance of being single rather than resisting it. This sets you free from self imposed suffering. To reach a state of wholeness you must surrender to your current life circumstances.

When you learn to accept life as it is you are no longer resisting it which opens you to infinite possibilities. Love happens with little effort when you let go of trying so hard.

Being alone is great practice for learning to love life independent of the outside world. This is where true sustainable happiness exists.

The world can't make you happy, only you can do that. As you practice accepting life's moments without needing them to change you transcend your egoic mind.

Your ego tries to assert itself in telling you being alone is dreadful. It is not. It is a path to learning and growing into your higher power (your energy identity).

Your higher self is never discovered when you opt for distractions to avoid being alone. People often go from relationship to relationship to evade loneliness.

In these cases there hasn't been any personal growth since the last failed connection so the same problems recycle into the new relationship. They're missing the greatest opportunity for growth at a spiritual level and beyond.

In this case the "heart" means your ego. Being single is an opportunity to reflect on your failed relationship rather than weep about it. This allows you to correct negative patterns and harness the asset of spiritual growth.

It's a grand opportunity to get in touch with your higher self rather than living through your ego. Single time is development time.

It urges you to the next level. The attitude of sadness of being alone can be transmuted into excitement. It creates an eagerness into life to become a stronger, more in tune you.

When you take the time to tune into yourself and embrace life's moments your reality begins to shift. Your new perspective drives new results in your life.

See it as an opportunity to learn and grow into a more powerful presence. This supersedes depression and sadness of being lonely.

I still have some times of feeling lonely here and there but it no longer rules me. I learned to relax into my life situation and embrace it for what it is.

There's nothing like cultivating fullness independent of others. As your independence grows your opportunity for high quality love prospects increases.

This is because you're no longer settling for the first average prospect that surfaces. You're willing to wait for the ideal.

Self acceptance

For most of my life I've had tension in my body. I realize it's because I always wanted to be richer, more masculine, more loving, more "xyz"...

Recently I realized that these thoughts are the cause of inner resistance. I was always wanting to get somewhere else other than here and now.

I learned a strategy recently and immediately started to get relief by simply accepting the tension as it arises in my body. Accept it lovingly and let it be without needing it to go away.

The minute you start wishing it away you create additional tension without knowing it. Instead surrender in to it lovingly. You don't need it to go away, what you need is to love it.

Tensions within are like empty spaces in yourself that just need love. As you accept it as it arises it begins to dissipate naturally.

It may take a few minutes but acceptance dissolves pain. I currently apply this technique and see results with it.

Know that you are powerful even in your flaws. Your true self is the energy that you feel within your body. Formless and infinite.

So you are not actually your flaws. You're the observer of them only. That said you no longer have to identify with them.

Additionally, by observing them it offers you the opportunity to correct them as well.

Give love through intention

In conversation you can transmit love to other humans simply by intending it. When you're emitting love to others you're in turn attracting love. This is especially effective when you give love without needing anything in return.

When you speak to women without lust in the forefront of your interactions you present an uncommon pureness. This emanates true value.

Highly feminine women are highly intuitive by nature. It's a feminine trait. They read your energy like a book.

A lusty energy is repulsive whereas neutral or loving energy is welcoming. Through my experience with women the results between the two are night and day.

I came from being a lust driven human with low confidence to a man of integrity. The integrity came from losing my lustful glasses from which I viewed the world.

Or at least I've diminished the prescription dramatically. I still have biological desires but in a healthy sense.

This leads us to the next crucial self completion component which purifies you from lust to love. Without this next step you will struggle to make lasting connections with women.

Quit Porn

After overcoming a 20 year porn addiction my life changed. My energy is full because I'm no longer depleting it through frequent orgasm.

Orgasm is an escape from negative emotions and boredom. To instead retain your seed cultivates masculine energy.

The feminine is built for pleasure so orgasms are a dime a dozen for them. There is nothing wrong with orgasm or masturbation; however, when done excessively you're wasting the most powerful energy available to you.

There's an entire chapter in the book Think and Grow Rich on sexual transmutation. It revolves around using sexual energy rather than depleting it.

Porn and poor mental health are bed mates. The reason is that it depletes your masculinity. This brings you further from what you really want (which is real physical ecstasy).

I wrote an article on how to quit porn here. Whether single or in a relationship quitting porn offers powerful transformation in the realm of intimacy.

Fuel your purpose

With the time you’re single you have the time to devote all your energy to your mission. A man’s purpose is his mission.

It’s a definite masculine trait to be focused on your life’s work. Whatever that may be it is an opportunity to go deeper into your craft. Leave nothing on the table.

As you build you’ll have lots to show for when the right lover comes along. Channel your energy into greatness. The most foundational trait of the divine masculine is to be a provider.

If you’re not already successful in what you do or you don’t enjoy what you do it’s time to make those adjustments. As you get this train rolling you’ll be developing the most crucial aspect of masculinity. To provide for your woman.

Society has forgotten this value and has buried in women’s independence rights. It is a fallacy. If you practise semen retention for the sake of sexual transmutation this is the outlet for that powerful energy.

These tools conclude the the self completion model. With them you have the power of significant transformation.

When you learn to bask in your own energy you no longer need anybody to complete you. You are independent of the external world for your happiness and in a place of true power.

This makes you irresistible to women because you are a rare find of a man. These tools have especially helped me as an introvert and I trust they will do the same for you.

If you're ready to become magnetic to women or to save your relationship I provide counselling to ensure your transformation. I welcome you to book a free 15 minute strategy call at the calendar link below to get started.

Until next time,

Peace out

Kush Wood