3 Rules to Simplify your Life for Lasting Love and Mental Clarity

In my earlier days I used to accept all hand-me-downs. They would collect in my home over time and eventually stack up in my basement or shed. It resulted in the clutter of things that I never used.

I kept things from a scarcity mindset for a just-in-case scenario that never happened. Every time I walked by a pile of rubble in my basement or shed it would be a reminder that I need to eventually organise it all.

The idea of those responsibilities that I never tended to was held in the back of my mind. Always feeling those organising duties that were left undone. It weighs on the mind.

I couldn't imagine if I had a fleet of "toys" to maintain as well -- from ATV vehicles to motorised tools. They all need to be kept in working order which requires steady attention and energy.

Belongings require maintenance and management which is an accumulation of responsibilities on your conscious mind.

It becomes a constant time commitment and burden on your mind when left unchecked.

There came a point for me when I needed to move out of town for work so I faced the daunting task of sorting all the stuff I hoarded over the years. It was a lengthy process which took several months. The burden of hoarding is real!

You collect so much over time and what's worse is to cling to those things. Even sentimental ornaments are weighing you down. Old trophies, achievements, ribbons and items you feel you need to keep to remember a loved one.

If those items don't have a purpose in your immediate life today they simply add weight to your mind. You feel obliged to carry them around because of artificial meaning you attach.

This is probably why people live and die in their home towns because they feel it impossible to move anywhere given their lifelong collection. They don't get to experience the world due to the weight of stuff.

There's freedom and fresh experiences when you move to new places. It offers true wonder and discovery of the world.

The principles around hoarding stuff also apply to relationships.

People tend to like to collect friends on social media. I did. I accumulated around 500 facebook friends over the years.

For me it was a deterrent from full self expression. I had people from the past on my list that I'd probably feel uncomfortable sharing ideas with openly.

People who'd judge me negatively. It's not worth limiting my full expression due to people I barely know.

They're but past acquaintances that no longer serve me but continue to have access to my personal life. It's an invasion of privacy.

Fear of judgement is something that I've struggled with, so having a bunch of rando's from the past as an audience to my life does me no good.

With respect to intimate connections I remember in the past often leaving the back door open when I was getting into a new relationship.

It's fairly common for people to keep options available but keeping a plan B is a sign of weakness. It's a sign of uncertainty which reveals fear of commitment. This can be picked up on by a highly feminine woman.

Women who are in touch with their femininity are highly intuitive. They can smell distrusting energy. Thus you will not keep a high quality woman in your life when you keep options hidden and still available.

This applies to keeping a good man as well. Eventually hidden secrets catch up with you.

You must be a quality person to keep a quality counterpart. Like attracts like.

When you're not able to be trusted it's a recipe for disaster. On the contrary, when your intentions are pure, a high value partner who's also pure will value you indefinitely.

It's ok to be exploratory and have options available to find a suiting partner but once you find a favoured connection, keeping secondary options tells the universe that you don't believe it will work out.

The reality will then mirror your thoughts as it always does.

I had a long distance girlfriend for about a year but realised it was not serving me due to the distance. I wanted to meet someone in my area so I cut the cord with her.

It's better to be on my own than to devote energy to a woman that I hardly see. She's a great person but it's not sustainable from a distance so I let her go to make space for an optimal connection.

This allows me to explore other possibilities at my own pace without guilt. It also gives me the space to integrate with myself and find happiness within my own independence.

Relationships are beautiful, however happiness stems only from within and I wanted to confirm that to myself.

Over the course of several months I became more in tune with myself and not long after I met my current girlfriend.

She's a high value woman who's a genius artist and seamstress. Emotionally intelligent and balanced (libra). Just what the doctor ordered!

Getting back to material items... In 2014 I began moving around a lot and got used to the idea of purging items that no longer serve purpose to me. The result of that enabled me to move wherever I want, even on short notice.

I now feel free of the burden of managing a whelming amount of personal belongings. To this day I travel light and live light because of it.

It's inevitable for me to have a fair amount of belongings though considering I'm a parent of 4; however, I manage well with a few ground rules and have made it into a framework I call the "Light Spirit Minimalist".

This is what I use for minimising my home and heart for lasting quality love and a clear head:

Light Spirit Minimalist

1) Purge your home

i) The main rule with personal belongings is that if something hasn't served me in 6 months or more it's time for it to be donated or sold.

Exceptions are made with tools that will serve me throughout my lifetime but even then if I have a long distance move it's best to travel as light as possible.

ii) The second rule around belongings is to purge any and all memories of ex partners. It doesn't serve to hold gifts that an ex bought for you that reminds you of them.

To keep those things keeps emotions and feelings lingering in the background. Donate or give away all items that link you to an ex.

If you keep the items it keeps the past alive whereas when you purge them it frees you and makes room for new memories.

2) Purge your digital footprint

After deleting my facebook friends down from 500 to 70 I could feel the weight lifted from my consciousness. The weight of hundreds of acquaintances that no longer serve me is lifted.

It brings me clarity through the simplicity of my new list. This even helps with choosing an intimate partner by dwindling questionable possibilities from my list. It also births a feeling of freshness because of the clean slate.

This is now a new environment for me to express myself without fear of judgement. My audience is now only people I resonate with or that serve me to some degree.

I now build a tribe of like mindedness and great vibes. Like attracts like so this clean slate allows me to govern my online environment and allow great connections to blossom without the static of extras.

Your ego may tell you to keep people just in case you connect with them later but it's not worth it. There's tremendous value in immediate simplicity. You're telling the universe that you're not in lack and that you are instead expecting greater connections.

Delete phone numbers of ex's and people that no longer serve you.

When you let go it always makes space for newness to arrive. Increased clarity comes when you delete those "just in case" connections. You'll thank me later.

To take it a step further you can delete all old email addresses and social media accounts that you no longer use. There's no purpose for them so you are lightening your digital footprint. It otherwise holds a subtle weight on your mind.

3) Choose a partner and commit

Set expectations openly for your partner or partner-to-be and you will walk with confidence without fear of disruption to a good connection.

There can sometimes be multiple options for partner choices at a given time. When you finally choose your favoured connection, it's ideal to cut the secondary options so that you end up with a true commitment that can be felt.

So when you throw away all the secondary choices you fortify the primary and only connection.

There's true power in the art of detachment and with this practise the quality of life increases. When the past exits your world it makes space for future gains.

Those gains come in the form of solid relationship connections and new useful material items. When you collect and cling to people and things you're sending a signal to the universe that you're in lack.

Let go and allow the flow of greater things in. Even if that means being alone for a while. Being single is the most fertile soil for personal growth.

As you grow you bring more to the table in your next connection. Never settle because you'll always find the quality you seek when timing is right. It will come to you with little effort.

Life is magnetism. This is not just a theory, it’s a personal truth.

After I let go of girl options (even highly attractive ones), I made connection with my current girlfriend. She's high vibe and attractive so I'm happy that I didn't keep many options open to complicate decision making.

Minimalism offers the freedom of clarity and will continue to do so throughout my lifetime. Detachment is a virtue worth developing.

May it serve you as well into your clearest mind and quality life.

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With Love,

MTG-K